What Would the Holidays Be Without Family Drama?

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Dear Pink Lady,

My brother had an affair and cheated on his wife last year. I supported my brother, but my mother supported his wife in the whole affair, no pun intended. Since then, the couple has reconciled and had a baby and all seems well—except for the fact that they have told us in no uncertain terms that they will not be attending any holiday celebrations this year on our side of the family.

As they live in town, as do her parents, this seems both awkward and hurtful. What gives?

—Hurt Feelings at the Holidays

Dear Hurt,

Combining an awkward family situation with the holidays is stressful indeed. You and your mother rightfully feel that if the your brother and his wife have reconciled, it's time for them to also move past the hurt feelings that came from your taking sides. However, that's often easier said than done, and if the couple is expending all their energy trying to make their marriage work—and deal with a time-consuming infant—they may just not have any left over to even think about the family drama. It's also possible that with a new baby they want to just have a quiet family Christmas at home.

However, there's no better time for everyone to make their amends than the Christmas season. Ask your brother if his family has one afternoon free from Christmas shopping and invite them over for a glass of "Winkin, Blinkin and Nog." The recipe says, "This smooth, strong eggnog is sure to bring Christmas cheer," of which it sounds like your family could use a hearty dose. Pair the drink with a cute present for the baby and offers of free baby-sitting in the new year, and don't mention their impending lack of attendance at other family functions. Hopefully you'll find these small tokens of affection will go a long way towards restoring goodwill towards all.


The Pink Lady

Winkin, Blinkin and Nog

12 eggs, separated

1 1/2 c. sugar

1 fifth of bourbon

1 qt. heavy cream

The day before serving, beat egg yolks until pale yellow and creamy. Slowly add one cup of the sugar and the bourbon. Pour into a plastic or glass container and refrigerate overnight.

The next day, beat egg whites until stiff, gradually adding the last half cup of sugar. Slowly stir in the cream. Gently combine the egg yolk and egg white mixtures. Chill. Serve in small punch cups. Yield: 3 1/2 quarts.

This week's recipe is from Dinner on the Diner (Junior League of Chattanooga, 1983).

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